When Trungpa Rinpoche started his youthful community in Boulder, Colorado, and Barnet, Vermont, in the very early ’70s, there was an immediate need for some kind of a ceremony to honor, recognize and legalize marriages for his community members.
One of the first recorded weddings took place in Barnet in 1973, at what was then Tail of the Tiger, between Lady Rich and Trungpa Rinpoche’s regent (princple student), Osel Tendzin. Soon after that, Marybeth and Jim Gritz married in Boulder.
In these weddings Rinpoche would emphasize friendship more than love:
“This particular gathering here is acknowledgment of man’s capability in friendship…egoless friendship…these two friends…are able to actually take a leap at this point beyond hesitation (to commit to) basic sanity and friendship.”
He would often add something to the effect that
the willingness to work with each other in a dharmic way would prevent World War III.
Rinpoche said what would create a successful couple was
“gentleness and the sense of openness within the light of the sitting practice of medit